Create a plan to avoid seasonal and roulette
The summer is often advertised online, on television, and potentially in our minds as a nirvana of sun, fun, vacations, and freedom! But it also means for many families, children and adults a significant change in routine. My daughter recently finished her last day of school and while I was thinking of the celebration of another year completed, she woke up the next morning looking sad. Moping around the house talking out loud about her boredom; she looked dejected. My reaction was frustration and confusion but I opted for crouching down at her level and asking if she missed school. Her eyes lit up discussing all of the things she valued so much including friendships, teachers, events, projects and most importantly the routine. As you read this, you might think I am speaking to an elementary student. Yet, this is a high school student who clearly values the structure and routine school provides.
Changes in routine are difficult
For any age and the roulette of spinning summer engagements can be overwhelming. Even if you are not experiencing the school-to-summer change, this season brings changes at work, after-work soirees, and weekend planning.
Would you like to move forward with this change more fluidly and with more emotional space?
Here’s some tips to appreciate the beautiful summer season:
Family Empathy – everyone handles change differently; some are excited for the change and others are dreading the routine disruption. Ask your family members what they are looking forward to this summer but also what (and maybe who) they are going to miss.
Build Routine – with the change looming or already started, build your new routine. Try to schedule at least one family or friend gathering meal each day. (check out a group who is putting this to practice – http://thefamilydinnerproject.org) Or plan times for your kids to see their school friends on a consistent basis.
Take on the Challenge – A college roommate once told me that he would lift weights if they weren’t so heavy:) Changes in routine and schedule happen often, so see this as a new challenge to strengthen your flexibility skills. Accept the change and start to embrace it as an opportunity to practice the changes you want to see in yourself.
Don’t Forget You – Refuel, refocus, regenerate your energy by taking time for yourself and the things you love to do. Go for your run. Eat something delicious. Listen to your music. This will give you increased capacity for the other people in your life. Our society has capitalized self care, yet it has inherent value to your mental wellness.
Accept Change – we create barriers accidentally that prevent us from adapting. Accepting the change of routine and season is a way to move forward. Start your acceptance by noticing the changes you don’t like. Then use gratitude for the changes you do like.
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additional contributions by:
David A. Morris, LCSW
